Have you ever noticed that your friends split down the line or leave one partner completely when you divorce? Who is really entitled to the friends or can they be shared? Wouldn't it be awkward to be friends with both the former husband and wife?
Friends can surprise you when you become single. First of all some of the other women may not want you around any longer because you can be a threat to their marriage and a grave temptation. Some men want a bite of the now available forbidden fruit. Or you may be an intruder if your ex has a new partner and wants to share that person with his friends. Who is really entitled? It becomes awkward because either your friends feel sorry for you, or they overcompensate by keeping things from you, such as your ex dating someone else, or that they all hung out with the new partner last evening and did not include you. Your friends may even feel uncomfortable with you bringing your new beau around. It would be wonderful if everyone could just move on and be accepting on all counts.
Either way, things will never be the same unless they were your friends from the beginning, and they have loyalty to you. Sometimes during a split, you have to not only split up your assets, but you have to split up your friends or split from your friends.
What do you think about moving on and leaving others behind in order to obtain a fresh perspective on your new life? Whatever your decision, you will be fine and you will survive.
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