There are some men and women that believe settling is the only way to be happy, and that is not true. Or is it? We tend to give up as we get older on finding true love and the younger tend to take whatever comes their way. When you are younger you tend to explore more in life and enjoy the process of the hunt. When some women mature they are exhausted by the trials of the hunt and they tend to take whatever prey is available. Why do we do this! Selty a woman in her forties believes that life is not significant without a partner. She says women who try to be strong and claim that they do not need a man are only fooling themselves. God placed both of us here on this planet for a reason and when we accept that fact we will be a lot happier.
Drake believes that as a mature man in his forties he has decided to settle because he feels the young girls don't hold a decent conversation; and the more mature women do not want children. Drake wants to know why he cannot have a mature woman wanting to start a family without any previous children. Why can't I have a woman without all of the baggage?
Men tend not to want the baggage that older women carry with them, and yet when they had the opportunity in their more youthful years they tended to want to play around.
Can you find love as you mature or should you grab the first thing that comes along? I believe if we sit back and enjoy our own lives, then love will come. Love is taken so lightly and we hurt each other so much when we are not committed. The biggest issue is understanding what is love and what is infactuation. Some one can turn you on and you have a strong desire to be with that person, but that is not love. Love is commitment and willing to take the ups and downs in your relationship, and yet still love that other person. Sex is not love, it can be great and you can want it more and more, but it is not love. Now you can fall in love with someone if they give you good sex, but after the sex is on break, what do you have left? Can you have a decent conversation with that person?
Jaimee Ann realized after getting pregnant that Bryant was a waste of time, he could not hold a decent conversation. She thought to herself, he cannot even help our child with homework. The biggest question of all was that Jaimee Ann should have figured this out before laying down and sleeping with Bryant. The problem with some women in this society is that we do things backwards. We lay down and make a baby, and then realize we do not want to commit to this person. Jaimee Ann pregnant and unmarried decides to reject Bryant's marriage proposal because she says she is not ready for that type of commitment, and she doesn't love him. He is not the kind of man that she wants to be the father of her child. Knock me over with a brick, what is wrong with this scenario. I'm just saying!
If we stop rushing into relationships with the assumption that it is more than it is, maybe we could develop real feelings and be in a strong and committed relationship where true love can blossom.
But I must reiterate, in order to love someone else, you must first love yourself. You will never be happy if you don't. People that are settling have that companionship, but many times they are still alone, because that person that they settled for doesn't fill the real void in the hearts.
True love is not about settling, it's about settling with someone you love, not someone who fills a job description. Love does come, especially when you are not seeking it out.
We have to start thinking of relationships in the sense of long term vs. a quick fix and not thinking about the consequences later on.
Live your life with and in Love.
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