There are many people that still live with their parents. I mean I know a woman who is forty six years old and still lives with her mother. Is there an age limit as far as how long you can live at home? What if you believe that you will live with your parents until you get married, is it okay to stay until you are fifty or sixty if you have not found that significant other?
One of my friends realized that her thirty four year old son would never leave, so she found him an apartment, paid for three months worth of rent and told him that the fourth month he would be on his own, so he had better find a full time job to cover his shelter and meals. She said I love you, but you have to move on.
Is there a rule or an age where you say enough is enough and your child or children have to move out? If you and your child or children help each other out and they stay, why is it offensive to other people? Now if your children are taking advantage and living off of you as the parents, that is a different story, or does it matter?
When or should a parent tell a child to move on and or get out? Do you remember the movie where parents paid to have a woman seduce their son to get him out of the house? How many of you would pay to have your children leave home.
You remember in the movie Baby Boy, Tyrese's mom allowed her boyfriend to basically put her son out, well Tyrese said he was leaving and she did not stop him, and she grabbed her boyfriend when he said he was leaving. At what age do you put your partner before your children, or do you ever? He said "momma, you gonna let me live on the streets", she cried but she was ready to live her own life.
How difficult is it to show your children the door, can your heart even take the stress. Are you holding on to the umbilical cord by allowing your children to stay? One of the most difficult things in the world is to let go of one's children, even sometimes when we know it is for their best. Our children have to grow and make their own mistakes in order for them to face the challenges life has to offer. It is no easy task, but again, when do we close the door?
What is the best solution, and does anyone have a real answer?
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