Fighting To Keep Your Man or Woman!

Fighting To Keep Your Man or Woman!

By: Sharock P.

Is it Wrong to Fight For Your Man or Woman?

Some Women say yes, while others say hell no, but isn't that what most women do anyway? If you have a man and you monitor his whereabouts, aren't you fighting to keep him? You are trying to make sure that he doesn't get distracted or tempted by outside resources.

We as Women joke around when we say that women do not want a man until he is with another woman and that is true. Most of the time the belief is that another woman would not keep a worthless man. If a man is with another woman the horn begins to toot, because this man must have a job, be a good provider and must be great in bed; because why else would another woman want or keep him?

When you usually see a man that is handsome, working and single, the warning lights begin blinking off and on, something is wrong with this dude. He probably is a player, he cannot commit and he is basically a dog.
So when we as women ask ourselves why these women keep messing with our man, we know the reason.

 Now should women be upset with the Man or the Woman? We should be upset with both of them, because most women know that a man has another woman even if he doesn't admit it. Especially when you cannot reach him during certain times (other than work), he does not spend the holidays with you, he doesn't stay over, you cannot come to his apartment, he always wants to hook up at the hotel or motel, he rushes you off of the phone, he never says love you back on the phone and other obvious signs. We as women tend to ignore the burning sensation in our bellies and the thoughts flowing through our minds.

First of all we think that our stuff is gold and after you put that loving on him, he would not cheat on you because he was full. Second he loves you too much and would never even think of another woman, because what the two of you have is so special.

Ladies Men have been breaking hearts for centuries and our century is no different. Women are finding it harder and harder to trust their men or keep their men, especially with all of these lonely temptress women out there. Women tend to have no regards for marriage and other women in relationships. We are upset with the other woman for sharing our man without our permission, and then we are upset with the man for not standing strong and holding his marriage or relationship as being sacred.

Now if a man is tempted by another woman and he takes her up on her offer, do you take the man back? Can a man that cheats ever be trusted again, or do you just accept his moment of weakness and put handcuffs on your man and continue to monitor his whereabouts? Can you live a happy life if you are always worried about where and with whom your man is with? Do you ignore the cheating to say you have a man and at least he comes home to you and gives you the paycheck. What is right and what is wrong? If you give up on your man and he goes to the other woman, are you upset with him, when you threw him out?

I have a good friend that was cheating on his wife for years, but when he starting observing changes in her behavior, he realized that she might be cheating on him and he was devastated. He realized how much he loved her and wanted to make things right. She had been telling him for years that things were not right, but when he realized that she was desirable to someone else, he got his act together and now they are the happiest couple. He had to face the chance that he could lose his woman and then he cleaned up his act. Is that what it takes to make a marriage work? Why do we behave so reckless in our relationships? Why can't two people that commit there love to one another stay true and faithful? How come some Men stay faithful and others don't?

In the words of one Brain Surgeon (jokingly), I cannot eat at McDonald's everyday, once in awhile I want to try Burger King! If a couple spiced up their relationship, can they view it as a different menu or great buffet? If we kept our relationships fresh and new could we keep our partners happy? Shouldn't that be one of our options?

Also, do know that sometimes when a man tells you that an outfit doesn't look good on you he is lying. He doesn't want you dressed in that outfit without him? Men and their games.

If you want to keep your Man or Woman, you don't have to physically fight for them (some cases-not encouraged), but you need to fight for each other, by listening, communicating and supporting. Don't allow your ego to control your relationship, everybody is wrong once in awhile and sometimes passing on an argument can be a healthy move.